Since the beginning of the year, it seems like our love life fell to second place. 2020 was the year of the pandemic, the year we were forced to distance ourselves from one another and the year which affected our emotional stability on many levels, especially when talking about love.
Love life in 2021
Given the circumstances, we still managed to adapt, to protect ourselves and to learn how to live with this virus. Now would be the time to think about what we want from the next year in terms of love. Here’s how to improve your love life in 2021:
Give up the idea of “what’s best is taken”
Even if it seems like a motivational cliché, know that, in the end, our thoughts might become the reality. Repeating it too much will change your opinion and you will start thinking, eventually, that what is best for you is already taken. Don’t let this be your new truth and en excuse to give up or stop fighting for what you deserve.
Instead, try changing your opinion from “X or Y is too good for me” to “there is someone extraordinary for me out there, but it’s not X or Y”.
Communicate with love
Often, couples end up arguing because of small misunderstandings that actually come from the difference in communication. Building a trusting relationship filled with love comes with a few obstacles, but one of the most important aspects is to take a step back during a fight and remind yourself the reasons you fell in love with your partner.
Get ready for a new relationship resolution to take into account: learn how to express your love.
Be proactive about dating
Do you know that things happen when you least expect them to? Make sure that in 2021 you don’t put so much pressure on yourself thinking obsessively about finding your soulmate.
Instead, aim to meet as many people as possible. Careful! Get to know them first by engaging into meaningful conversations about hobbies or favorite books and avoid the common “hello, what are you doing?”.
If you relate to the people you interact with and find common interests, you will notice that the pressure you’ll feel before a date (virtual or offline) will be almost 0.
Give yourself time to feel
Are you searching for that “spark” during the first date? Most of the time this only exists in movies. The point is, instant romance rarely happens.
The chemistry in a relationship increases over time, but only if you let it happen. If you like someone’s company, they treat you well and make you laugh but you still don’t feel that “spark” just yet, it doesn’t mean that they are not the right person for you.
Maybe you should just grant the relationship a chance by giving it a little more time.
Don’t take Social Media relationships as a role model
No relationship is perfect. You know very well that behind closed doors things are not as they seem, especially when talking about Facebook or Instagram.
Social platforms only show an edited version of the relationship. Don’t try to mirror the “romantic moments” you see in your feed just because someone said they worked. Instead, find inspiration in them and adapt the details to your relationship.
Don’t judge people online until you get to know them in real life
Dating sites or apps, such as Sentimente, offer you a lot of people with whom you can interact. The more options there are, the harder it is to make a choice.
Focus on apps that give you the opportunity to search for future partners based on more than just age, sex, and physical characteristics. Common interests, hobbies or values are what strong and successful relationships are based on.
Don’t go back to your exes
Many times we are seeking those things that give us comfort, especially when we suffer after a breakup.
Even if in some moments of loneliness you prefer to return to a former relationship, resist this temptation and remember why you ended that relationship in the first place.
How else do you think you can improve your love life in 2021?