I’m here to tell you not to give up. There is no law that says you will find your soulmate before you turn 25 … or 45 … or 65. Things happen at a different pace for everyone.
What does a soulmate really mean?
In my opinion, any relationship comes with good things and bad ones. I believe that relationships are generally happy, as long as both partners work on them. A soulmate, on the other hand, is someone who fits you. Your relationship does not require much effort and you don’t have to work hard to be happy together. Things feel just right.
I’m not saying that everything is always 100% perfect, but when you analyze your past relationships and compare them with this one, you’ll see the differences. It’s a little harder to explain, but it’s something you can easily feel.
How do you find your perfect half?
It’s all about you
First of all, you need to know and understand yourself. Self-acceptance is an important step. Think about it, if you can’t love yourself, why would anyone else do it for you? Positivism, acceptance and self-confidence are also reflected on the interactions you have with others. You need to be happy and emotionally balanced to find your soulmate easier.
Trust what you want
What is important to you? What makes you happy? When you know what you don’t want, it’s easier to tell the difference between a relationship that has potential and one that won’t go very far. Take time to figure out what makes you feel good so you can realise when feelings start to surface.
We all have different values and things we love. Equally, everyone finds things which they consider unacceptable. Make sure your soulmate shares your values. Keep in mind that no one is perfect. There’s someone out there willing to accept and embrace your defects, but you must also be willing to work on them and on yourself.
The big conversation
Marriage? Children? Pets? These questions, among others, must be addressed as soon as possible. You don’t have to pressure someone from the first date, but it’s good to know the direction the relationship is going. Nobody wants to end up regretting the lost time invested in a relationship doomed from the start because neither of you had the courage to talk about the serious aspects from the beginning.
Keep your mind open to options
Maybe you have a very long list of attributes that you follow in your search for your soulmate. It’s okay, that means you know what you want. However, keep an open mind because there will be people who will surprise you in the most pleasant way. Not everything in life needs to be planned.
It’s never too late
As I said at the beginning: there is no magic calendar which shows you the exact time you’ll meet your other half. It takes patience. The mere concept of soulmate indicates that there is a right person for you. Someone who can fulfill you emotionally, spiritually and sexually. A person which makes you feel complete. Don’t give up looking for them because, yes, there is a light at the end of the tunnel.